237. Transurfing | Winning the Pendulum Game

🔗🔗🔗Links for today’s episode:

• Blog Post: https://www.kathieowen.com/blog/pendulum-shadow-reality-transurfing-guide
• Transurfing on Tuesday Newsletter
• Reality Check Clarity Call: https://www.kathieowen.com/reality-check
• Articles on Pendulums: https://www.kathieowen.com/pendulums 

In today’s episode, we discuss:

Understanding Pendulums: How to Navigate and Thrive in Everyday Drama

In this episode of Kathie's Coaching podcast, host Kathie Owen delves into the concept of pendulums as described by Vadim Zealand in Reality Transurfing.

Pendulums are invisible energy structures formed by collective focus on a particular idea, belief, or conflict. Kathie explains how these pendulums feed off your energy and offers practical advice on how to handle them, such as abandoning the game or riding its momentum to your advantage.

The episode includes real-life examples, tips for recognizing and managing pendulums, and emphasizes the importance of choosing your own path over getting entangled in external dramas.

Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Pendulums
00:27 What is a Pendulum?
00:58 The Nature of Pendulums
02:46 How to Deal with Pendulums
03:24 Practical Examples
04:27 Handling Pendulums in Everyday Life
05:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Transcript

0:00

Have you ever felt pulled into drama you didn't even wanna be part of? Like one minute, you're minding your own business and the next you are sucked into gossip, politics, or somebody else's chaos. That my friend is what vadim Zealand. In Reality Transurfing calls a pendulum. We are gonna talk about that today. You're listening to Kathie's Coaching podcast. I'm your host, Kathie Owen. So what is a pendulum? No, I'm not talking about the thing that swings inside a clock. A pendulum is an invisible energy structure and it's created when a group of people focus on the same idea, belief or conflict. Think of it like this. Politics? Pendulum. Office gossip? Pendulum. Hustle culture? Pendulum. Even your favorite sports team? Yep. A pendulum. Pendulums are like shadows. They don't have minds, they don't have hearts, and they don't have intentions. They just exist and they live off of one thing. Your energy. And here's the spooky part, you can't actually defeat a pendulum. Zealand says it like this. You can never get the better of a pendulum just as you can never outrun your own shadow. Ouch. That means the moment you fight it, you've already lost. See, pendulums don't care if you are for them or against them. They don't care if you're cheering or booing. The fact that you're reacting at all. That's food, that's energy, and that's how they survive. By the way, did you know that I include a blog post on every episode that includes bonus resources and more? I also have a Transurfing on Tuesday newsletter that you can sign up for in the description and show notes below. I hope to see you there. Back to the episode. So, let me give you an example. Say you work in an office where gossip runs wild. Everyone whispers about who's getting promoted, who messed up, or who's slacking off. You tell yourself you won't get involved, but then a coworker pulls you aside and says, did you hear what happened with Susan? Boom, you are in the game. Even if you say, I don't wanna talk about it, you've still given energy. You leave work drained, anxious, frustrated, and guess who's smiling in the background? The pendulum. So what do you do? Vadim Zealand says, you've got two choices. Abandon the game. Stop feeding the pendulum. Withdraw your energy completely. No reaction, no resistance. Walk away or become the pendulum's favorite. This one's kind of unique. Use its momentum to your advantage. Ride the energy instead of fighting it. That's where the magic happens. Now becoming the favorite doesn't mean you're selling your soul. It means aligning the pendulum's energy with your own goals. Say your company is obsessed with hustle culture. Everyone brags about working 70 hour weeks. You could get sucked into it and burn out, fight against it, and complain. Or you could ride the wave you position yourself as the person who gets incredible results without the burnout. You become the example of smart productivity. You're no longer resisting. You are redirecting, and suddenly the pendulum is working for you, not against you. Here's another example from sports fandom. When a football team wins, the city goes crazy. The pendulum is massive, collective and powerful. When the team loses, the pendulum still gets fed through outrage, blame and anger, but the wise fan. They enjoy the game without letting their emotions get hijacked. They play along without being controlled. That's what it looks like to dance with a pendulum without getting trapped. So how do you handle pendulums in everyday life? I'm so glad you asked. First of all, you notice the hook when you feel triggered or pulled into conflict. Pause and ask, is this a pendulum? Number two, drop importance. The more serious you take it, the more energy you feed it lighten up. Shrug it off. And number three, float. Don't fight. Fighting feels heavy, floating feels light and keeps you in the flow. Step aside and let the pendulum swing right past. Number four, and one of my favorites is use humor. Pendulums do not like humor. Laugh at the situation. And its grip dissolves. And number five, redirect your energy. Focus on your own venture, your work, your health, your creativity. Build something so strong that pendulums fade into the background noise. So here's the truth. Pendulums are not going away. They're shadows. They will always be there. But here's the good news. You don't need to outrun them. You don't need to defeat them. You just need to wake up, step aside and play your own game because the pendulum is just a shadow. But you, you are the source of light. So the next time you fill that pull, whether it's gossip, politics, hustle, culture, or sports teams or anything else, remember, you don't have to feed the pendulum. You can choose differently, and that choice is your freedom. All right, that's my episode for today. I trust that you found it helpful, and if you know someone who can benefit from this, please share it with them. And until next time, I will see you next time. Peace out and Namaste.